What Does BDSM Mean? Be Unashamedly You in Sex!

At the core of sex and all sexual-related activity is self-expression. There are many ways and means to self-expression, given the uniqueness of humans. It, therefore, stands to reason that how we express our sexual desires and sexual activities vastly varies.

From sexual fetishes and kinks to sex toys and BDSM, sexual expression continues to evolve. BDSM- bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism-has become increasingly popular and acceptable. The world has come a long way from the era of ostracizing people with different sexual preferences to being openly accepting of them.

What Does BDSM Mean?

There is a common fallacy that has been propagated over the years. When the term BDSM is used or the question “What does BDSM mean?” asked, there is an immediate assumption of sexual exploitation or an unfair power dynamic in a relationship with one party exacting their will. This misconception probably arose from the abuse of the term and general media misconception.

BDSM is a spectrum of sexual kinks and activities, including but not limited to tying, sexual toys, and role-playing, amongst others. The term suggests that it includes activities that can be divided into – bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism. If not done right, BDSM can dangerously come close to abuse. Here are a few tips for safe sexual expression while engaging in BDSM.

Consent Is Key

Central to BDSM is consent. BDSM activities usually require a delicate balance. Both participants must be clear on their boundaries and comfortable with each other enough to express their pleasure or displeasure with what their partner does.

A proven way to achieve this balance is continued consent and using safe words.
The sexual partners agree upon safe words before commencing any sexual activity. Usually, it is a pretty mundane non-sexual word like ‘groceries’ or ‘oranges.’ both partners must agree on it beforehand.

The partner uncomfortable with the activity can use the safe word, and the other partner stops. Usually, the safe word protects the receiving party-the masochist or submissive. Another method devised to avoid going overboard is the traffic light system. This system is a bit more convenient because it leaves room to adjust before it gets unbearable for the other party. There are three colors;

The red light- means stop. Whatever you do at that point is not giving your partner pleasure, and they will rather you stop. The yellow light – implies caution. Usually, it means that what you were doing was enjoyable, but now dangerously close to being unbearable.

The green light-this means continue with what you are doing. Safe words are to be respected in other not to trample upon your partner’s right to autonomy or become abusive. Open communication is also pertinent in BDSM. Using the safe word with your partner, or even with a cam girl, is not a reason to become vindictive or be taken as an accusation about you. Communication should be open.

Spanking is one of the most frequently practised activities in the spectrum. It is with the sadism /masochism end. The sadist usually likes to do the spanking, while the masochist derives pleasure from being spanked.

How Does Spanking Give Pleasure?

Genuine curiosity often arises about whether people like being spanked during sex and how that is possible. Even people who enjoy being spanked sometimes question their preferences due to the stigma around BDSM.

The pleasure felt is entirely normal. The pain from the spanking causes a rush of the happiness chemicals – endorphins causing pleasure. It also leads to an increase in the blood flow to the pelvic region, the same process that occurs during sex. The scientific jargon behind it, be that as it may – is that there are people who genuinely enjoy being spanked during sex and those who love to do the spanking.

There should be no barrier to exploring your sexual fantasies, nor should there be a reason to be stigmatized. However, it can be challenging for many people to meet someone who matches their sexual energy or shares similar sexual fantasies. Online sex chat room opens up a new world to explore. You can meet people with similar sexual preferences for online and offline sex.

You can meet a girl on a sex cam who really enjoys being spanked and is also available to meet offline.