How to Have Virtual Sex: 5 Ways to Get the Most Pleasure Out of It
As humans, we set high expectations for certain events. It could be a date, a business dinner, a fashion show, sex, etc. We look forward to having breathtaking moments, meeting new people, pitching our businesses, or reaching orgasm. Sometimes, we become discontent as our experiences don’t match what we envisage.
When it comes to sex, we might miss out on a lot if we don’t feel comfortable. Being dissatisfied during sex might not be your partner’s fault. It could result from your insecurities. We have created this post to show you how to do virtual sex better for increased pleasure.
Tips on How to Do Virtual Sex
1. Put yourself first
Putting yourself first is not being selfish. It means giving your body the sexual touch it craves the most. While on the virtual sex call with your partner, do what gives you the most desired pleasure. If you get more pleasure from a sex toy, use it.
On the other hand, if you’re a cam model, stick to your sexual orientation, fetish, or kink. It would be unfair to give in to the desires of someone with clashing sexual needs. For example, if you’re not into rough sex and don’t plan on trying it, let no one pressure you to. On the other hand, you shouldn’t sweep your needs under the carpet to satisfy someone else.
2. Leave your face out
Though many body image and positivity tips fly around, you still might not feel comfortable with your body. It’s okay, as it might take time and effort to love your body. However, it shouldn’t stop you from enjoying virtual sex. If you are insecure about your body, you can focus the camera only on the parts you feel confident about.
On the other hand, if you hold no grudges with your body, but don’t want to show your face due to timidity or identity issues, take your face off the camera. Likewise, if you have identifying elements like tattoos or birthmarks, take them away from the camera.
3. Know what you need
Joining the bandwagon is not a sexual fallacy you should commit. There are many virtual sex types, but you must select which gives you pleasure. To figure this out, ask yourself which technology you find easy to use.
For instance, if you prefer being on your phone to using the computer, phone sex could be your thing. Likewise, figure out if you prefer to share nudes, hear erotic sounds, or be visual. This will help you identify if you like sexting, audio erotica, or cam sex.
4. Make a list
If we make a grocery list so we don’t overspend or fall prey to impulse buying, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to make a sex list. Put into writing what you want your partner to do to your body and when to.
Gather your ideas on what you expect for foreplay and which of the toys to use on that sex call. Adding the number of orgasms you want to have before the call ends will be fun.
5. Use your words
Now that you’ve passed your list over to your partner pat them on the back with words, breathing, or gestures. If you need to spank them a little for missing something, do it with the same verbal and non-verbal cues. However, you have to mind your tone when you give feedback. Try to be as loving and sensual as you can be when you communicate with your partner while in the act.
6. Be flexible
Even though you’ve found the right virtual sex type, be open to trying other stuff. Stepping out a bit of what you’re accustomed to can add more flavour to your sex life. It’ll also help you to accommodate your partner’s choice of virtual sex (if you don’t share the same).
For instance, you could love phone sex because you prefer to talk. On the other hand, your partner could be into sexting. So, welcoming your partner’s choice will open you to multi chances of sexual pleasure and bliss.
Being sex-starved due to distance and related factors has become almost non-existent since virtual sex became popular. If you’re already having sex virtually or planning to, know that you’re first responsible for your sexual satisfaction. Figure out what you want and take charge. Don’t make it your partner’s role to know how to do virtual sex on your behalf.