How to Explore Your Sexuality: 8 Ways to Get Started

A healthy sex life is a key component of a happy and healthy lifestyle.

However, many underestimate the value of sexual relationships and experiences in our well-being. To create worthwhile sexual experiences that will help us lead generally more fulfilling lives, we must be sexually self-aware. A part of being sex self-aware is understanding your sexuality.

Sexuality is fluid. It is not set in stone, and we are usually just trying out different things at every point of our lives. Our bodies will experience several physiological changes that may or may not impact our sexuality. This is why those seeking novel and enjoyable sexual experiences must keep exploring their sexuality. 

Exploring your sexuality is, however, not as easy as it sounds. There’s no medical way to discover a person’s sexuality, nor are there any cognitive tests to determine a person’s sexuality at any time.

However, there are some ways to get started on understanding your body better and ultimately figuring out your sexual identity.

How To Explore Your Sexuality

With all the sex toys, sex games, cam sites, and virtual reality sex services, the journey to sexual discovery has never been smoother.

With the current boom in the sex-related industry, we now have more opportunities and tools for sexual exploration at our disposal. This article will contain a combination of things you can do on your own and things you can do with others that will help you on your sexual journey.

1. Research

The first step to discovering and unlocking new levels of your sexuality is to research and research adequately.

Research allows you to reach deep into yourself and examine your feelings and how they apply to your sexual identity. You can use plenty of resources for your research, from books to online sites to television; you just need to dig into them.

2. Masturbate

Masturbation is an easy way to explore and know your body in more intimate ways. Masturbation is useful to anyone, regardless of gender or sexuality. Aside from that, masturbation allows you to learn about your sex life.

There are other benefits to masturbating. For example, masturbation helps to boost libido, increase productivity, and even improve sleep patterns.

3. Pornography

Pornography is another useful resource in the sexual exploration journey.

While porn is not a substitute for your research and informed questioning, it can assist you in your exploration.

There are many kinds of porn, and watching porn lets you discover what gets you off. You can find diverse sexualities being expressed through porn. However, always make sure to select ethically made porn. Harmful content will invariably draw you back.

4. Sex Therapy 

Therapy is often given the cold shoulder by a lot of people, especially when it comes to sex.

But there’s a lot you probably do not know about yourself and how it informs your sexuality that therapy will help you figure out. There’s no shame in seeing a sexual and mental health professional help you. Seeing a professional can also help you to explore your sexuality.

5. Don’t Be Quick To Rule Things Out

If you’re exploring your sexuality, the worst thing you can do to yourself while exploring your sexuality is to be close-minded.

Even if you don’t end up enjoying the things you try, it is still valuable insight into things you don’t like. Learning what you like is just as important as learning what you don’t like.

6. Don’t Be Quick to Take on A Label

If you try something for the first time and find that you enjoy it, don’t be quick to adopt that as your sexual identity.

Having sex with a woman once and enjoying it doesn’t make you a lesbian. Again, sexuality is fluid, and there are other identities between lesbian and straight.

Also, seeking labels can be detrimental in that you might be something that there is no word for and end up feeling discouraged.

7. Find A Support System 

Finding a support system is also a way to explore. Your support system functions as your “beta testers” in sexual exploration.

You can always find people online or in chat rooms in similar positions as yourself who can help you. You share resources and support one another through it all.

8. Attend Events

Going out to meet people and interacting at sexually-oriented events is a good way to explore sexually.

Getting positive sex support and healthy sexual interactions is quite challenging. You must be prepared to work because it’s always worth learning how to explore your sexuality.