Tips on How to Be a Good Dominatrix (Especially When You’re With a Cam Girl)

As a dominatrix, it is quite easy to get carried away at the moment and unintentionally harm or do things that are offensive to your partner. Hence, learning how to be a good dominatrix, even in online scenarios, will help your sexual life a lot.

Being dominant is a part of the BDSM spectrum that involves being aroused by the submissive acts of your sexual partner. BDSM of any form requires a lot of communication, and dominance especially requires that both parties set a lot of ground rules, communicate properly and negotiate their limitations. The dominant partner in particular has a lot of responsibility to make sure that they do not unintentionally subject their partner to abuse or cross the line.

Being a good dominatrix can in a way seem like putting a lot of responsibility on the dominant person, but to be frank, they do have a responsibility to make sure that their partner is protected. As a dominatrix, there is the perception that you can only enjoy sexual expriences when they are physical, but the truth is cam services such as Skyprivate can also cater to your unique needs.

But the same rules apply, you have to learn to be a good dominatrix. When meeting a cam girl as a dominant, most of your activities will boil down to a lot of role-playing and simulation, and even with that you still have to make sure to put the interests of your sexual partner in mind.

Here are some great tips on how to be a good dominatrix when meeting a cam girl:

Ask questions and communicate

The first thing you need to learn as a dominant is how to communicate with a sexual partner or a potential sexual partner. You have to let them understand fully well what it would mean for them to be your submissive partner, especially if they are new to the BDSM scene. You should also ask questions about what they would like or expect in return from you.

Respect limitations and safe words

Before getting into any live Skype show with a cam girl, you both have to communicate to establish what the boundaries of your relationship with them would be. You also have to agree on what the safe words would be for the two of you. If the boundaries a potential partner sets are not okay with you, let them know. It is better than breaking the limits in the middle of a sexual moment.

Accept that you don’t always have to be in control

This might sound a bit counterintuitive, after all, you are supposed to be dominant. But the truth is being dominant doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be in total control all the time. You need to realize that your partner has needs that are different from yours, and sometimes their needs can only be fulfilled by you letting go of some control.

Customize your version of dominance

You and your cam girl have to agree on what would be acceptable to you both. BDSM is not the same thing for everyone, and you both need to state your preferences clearly from the onset.

Get into character 

Getting into character properly is a way to help your cam girl adjust to the situation. One way to do this is to dress up in a way that makes you feel powerful, and choose a name that reflects power as well. You could even adopt a tone of voice that depicts power. This way, your camgirl can ease into being your submissive faster.

Work to earn the trust of your submissive 

Being your submissive means being that your cam girl trusts you to a certain degree. You on the other hand as a good dominatrix should learn to work on maintaining and earning that trust by constantly making them feel safe and not breaking their set boundaries. You should learn not to go overboard with any sexual fantasies you both agree to play out in a way that makes them uncomfortable or utterly distressed.

Aftercare

You should try to ask questions after the live session with your cam girl about their experience. This shows that you are paying attention to their needs as well. This is necessary even though you are using a cam service. Cam services such as Skyprivate are particular about safety and would always work to ensure the same for their models. Not caring might just mean that you lose the opportunity for another great adult Skype show.